When you sink to the bottom of your existence and start questioning everything…you will find out who your friends are.

When you challenge the status quo and probe into the hearts and motives of others…you will find out who your friends are.

When your progress as a person doesn’t meet the standards of others…you will find out who your friends are.

When you decide to speak your mind and not just go along with the crowd…you will find out who your friends are.

When you are no longer satisfied with being the pawn in someone else’s success…you will find out who your friends are.

When you decide to own your addiction and do something about it…you will find out who your friends are.

When you make public your beliefs and convictions…you will find out who your friends are.

When you confess your faults and shortcomings…you will find out who your friends are.

When you point out the flaws in another’s argument, though you try to do it in as kind a way as possible…you will find out who your friends are.

When you’ve had enough of a hollow life and won’t buy into what everyone else says will make you happy…you find out who your friends are.

When you achieve a level of success, or find yourself in a constant struggle to survive…you will find out who your friends are.

When people perceive your questions and observations wrongly…you will find out who your friends are.

When you are hurting and say the wrong thing or do something unloving…you will find out who your friends are.

When you move to another city or state and don’t see the people you once did, those who you thought were part of your life…you will find out who your friends are.

In short, most of us have very few close friends; Life continues to “thin the herd,” and those people who really don’t really care about us fall away and disappear. This isn’t always pleasant and comfortable, can be extremely painful, and hurt deeply too. We may feel rejection and isolation, but, this may be the gateway to something and someone who will become that friend we have longed for.

True friends stick with you through the many challenges of life, and you stick with them too. Think about that the next time you have a quarrel with another, examine your motives, check your pride, be willing to apologize and humble yourself for the sake of what could be a great and lasting friendship.

Sure we could all just have a bunch of shallow friends and surfacey conversations. While we struggle, wonder, and fumble through life we will be missing the gift that a true, authentic, transparent friendship brings to us.

I am happy to say that even though I have lived many years in isolation and secrecy, I have found certain people that are willing to really know me, and allow me the privilege to know them. People will inevitably fall away for a number of reasons, they may have issues they refuse to face, wounds they are not yet ready to see healed, it’s OK. You are OK. Surround yourself with the key people that will listen to your heart, and that are open to sharing theirs with you. People who will be real, disagree, not always understand, but won’t abandon you. They will stay close, faithful, through whatever you endure together, they will never leave.

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Find the joy of True Friends!

 

 

 

 

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