Yes its Sin, say the word.


Could it be that political correctness has spilled over into the church and we don’t ask the tough questions or confront the issues that make the asker or hearer uncomfortable?  How can we talk about the church, speak of its growth, and what the church “needs” to be in this present age and NOT address our own hidden brokenness?


We are good with mentioning the “completely” lost (that is to say the unsaved) but those who have committed their lives to Christ are presumed to be walking out a life of consecration and dedication while they are being continually sanctified. That doesn’t sound even remotely plausible. It’s mumbo-jumbo, just like the former military practice regarding a soldiers sexual inclinations, don’t ask, don’t tell, which by the way failed. People don’t walk right out of their unredeemed lives and once saved become instant clones reflecting the best of Christianity.


The rising tide of porn has indeed reached the faithful and is proven to be infecting those in our churches with equal strength as those outside of the faith community.


My wife and I made a recent return to church after an elongated absence. We have been in recovery from my mistakes and failings. Over the years I bought into the church culture which often denies the real and tragic brokenness in lives that result in unhealthy and destructive behavior; that’s Code for sin by the way. The problem is that when returning to the church we have re-discovered…wait for it… (spoiler alert) …nothing has changed. {As a disclaimer, yes, many churches are dedicated to helping people find healing to their deeply embedded hurts and pain that become habitual sin, and are doing great work. Others think they are doing great work but are none-the-less woefully ineffective.}

I am struggling with church as usual, and I am not alone. I received a blessing of sorts to have my actions revealed openly although it was extremely painful for many people. I was forced to acknowledge my inability to conquer my demons and have been diligent to spend my time healing, learning, praying, reading, writing, and processing. In retrospect, my hopes were that the church I left would use the opportunity to address the deepening issue of pornography as I wasn’t the first, only the latest. Sad to say that nothing changed and the cloak of appearances continues. This is the way most of us react to difficulty; get past it, move on, forget it.

We are told that every issue we have is a prayer or a daily devotional away from resolution or outright victory. Thats just not true! Many people are crippled and desperate for not only a voice in their faith community, but tangible help. Instead, there is more concern for where the building fund stands, or what the worship leader is wearing. I thought we weren’t to be defined by the culture, but instead define it. 

Now we come to one of the greatest stigmas of porn. Shame. It is a relentless driver that continues to force dealing with it underground, out of sight and out of mind.

  • The deep shame of the one caught in the cyclical trap will often not open up to someone else unless their hand is forced by a discovery
  • Leaders don’t want or know how to address such a controversial  and sensitive subject (especially if it is their secret sin)
  • Wives, husbands and children are all left with questions and new trauma of their own and must be cared for genuinely
  • And I am sure many more…


Here is the ultimate kicker. We serve an Omniscient God, who can do anything. His love and power are unquestioned, and yet we don’t have the guts to address sin and human brokenness openly and honestly in our churches. Its kind of like the school directive not to use red ink when correcting papers because it made the student feel bad.

I sometimes think that not only does God have to be omniscient (complete or unlimited knowledge, awareness, or understanding; perceiving all things.) But we feel that if we are true Christ followers, we must be too.

Well, lets explore that quickly. If in fact there is an aspiration and mandate to be like Christ, there is also responsibility in those same areas of awareness, knowledge and understanding; not just with respect to the scriptures and the dos and don’ts of christianity, but with the complex and intricate lives of real people. A godly desire to help others become all God intended them to be doesn’t just mean we rehearse and recite the rules, but dig in with others and walk with them through anything they face. It is compassionate understanding and grace, and awareness of what it means to help another with their greatest burdens.

We will never be God but we can do our best to honor His sacrifice by doing what He did, giving our all for others. If we truly believe in Gods power, we won’t give up on anyone!

A few suggestions:


  1. Distancing yourself from the problem
  2. Having endless closed door meetings that get nothing done and go nowhere
  3. Ignoring certain sin because its uncomfortable to broach
  4. Saying that using porn is worse than other sins
  5. Making excuses for not being the church Christ desires



  1. Relentlessly love every person regardless of their struggles
  2. Give yourself to finding and helping the hurting
  3. Help to alleviate shame that causes people to remain silent
  4. Become knowledgable about the issues Gods people are facing
  5. Be compassionate


And he (Jesus) was teaching in one of the synagogues on the sabbath. And, behold, there was a woman which had a spirit of infirmity eighteen years, and was bowed together, and could in no wise lift up herself. And when Jesus saw her, he called her to him, and said unto her, Woman, thou art loosed from thine infirmity. And he laid his hands on her: and immediately she was made straight, and glorified God. And the ruler of the synagogue answered with indignation, because that Jesus had healed on the sabbath day, and said unto the people, There are six days in which men ought to work: in them therefore come and be healed, and not on the sabbath day. The Lord then answered him, and said, Thou hypocrite, doth not each one of you on the sabbath loose his ox or his ass from the stall, and lead him away to watering? And ought not this woman, being a daughter of Abraham, whom Satan hath bound, lo, these eighteen years, be loosed from this bond on the sabbath day? And when he had said these things, all his adversaries were ashamed: and all the people rejoiced for all the glorious things that were done by him.

Luke 13:10-17 (KJV)

I use this scripture to make a point, not so much about the matter of the specific day of this woman’s healing, but the actual occurrence of it. She had been afflicted for 18 years by Satan. When she was healed the leaders wanted to dispute it because of a perceived technicality. They were rebuked, and the excuses they made for their own inaction were seen for what they were, hypocritical. They were more concerned with appearances than this woman’s freedom.

I am not casting stones with this, I am merely pointing out that Jesus saw the wounded-ness of someone bound by Satan, and did whatever He could to help,  i.e. healed her. The church however, makes excuses, sites precedent and dog paddles in place without any movement forward.

The call on the church today is to tear down the veil of silence. Stop the excuses and rationalizations, no more putting up with that which kills and destroys for the sake of some antiquated religious practice. Attack the lies of porn and pursue until it is destroyed, stop the rot it causes as it slowly eats away, and halt the inevitable destruction of so many individuals, families, and churches. There is no more time to waste, we will be lost if porn is not immediately confronted.


Do everything you can to see Gods people achieve God-given freedom and just watch what the church will become!



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